Humans are social beings. Much as we like the occasional ‘alone’ time, truth is, our mental and physical well-being depends on how we fare in our relationships. A person who is well-loved, able to reciprocate that affection, and surrounded by people who care for him enjoys a peace of mind and quality of life better than one who struggles at maintaining a healthy relationship.
While we are all different in how we deal with life and people around us, one has to make an effort in relationships; it could be familial bonds, friendships, colleagues at work or love life. Just being in a situation does not warrant the love and affection of those around us, there are certain habits and steps we can all follow to actively pursue a happier, more well-connected life.
We found these 13 steps to better relationships by Meg Selig, author of Changepower! 37 Secrets to Habit Change Success and a blogger at Psychology Today. Many of these are common sense, but often ignored in our daily lives, read through this enlightening check-list and let us know which ones spoke to you the most.
1. Make the conscious decision to put your relationship health at or near the top of your priority list.
2. Assess the relationship area that needs work and set a specific goal.
3. Set standards.
4. Observe character.
5. When your friends are happy, be happy for them.
6. Apologize when you’ve been wrong.
7. Ask for what you need in the relationship.
8. Be able to say NO when your friends’ requests interfere with your own values and goals.
9. Use negative feelings—such as resentment, sadness, and annoyance—as clues that you might need to change either yourself or something in the relationship.
10. Say thank you.
11. See a therapist.
12. Don’t put all your relationship eggs in one basket.
13. You decide! What else could go on your list?